When a woman has experienced long and deeply satisfying love making with a new man, there is a great possibility that she already gets completely infatuated just after a single lovemaking. The doubt she might have had about starting a relationship can completely evaporate and transform itself into a wild craving for more sex with him.
You have problaby heard or seen a woman tell about how she has become completely sexually obsessed by a man that really could satisfy her.
Many men feel quite satisfied if they just get their ejaculation. But women are a little more advanced. They want a man who can last long and its not only because it takes her longer to get satisfied.
Lets take a look at what happens inside of a womans heart, yoni (vagina) and heart during sex and why she wants the lovemaking to last so long.
When a woman has had long lasting and satisfying sex with a new man, there is a big chance that she already is hooked on him after the first time
During lovemaking a woman is stimulated more and more at the deeper levels as time progresses. In her brain a vast hoard of hormones are released – she gets excited, she gets wet and the stimulation phase starts where she opens up more and more both physically and also emotionally.
After 30 minutes of continual penetration without stops or pauses, her oxytocin levels are going over the top and she is feeling the effects of an ecstatic high created by the chemicals produced in her brain and in her heart (yes indeed, the heart has its own network of neurons and also produces hormones!).
Tantra tells us that a womans heart and yoni are intimately connected. When the deeper levels of the yoni are stimulated the heart chakra and the brain start producing the bonding hormone Oxytocine.
The same effect CANNOT BE OBTAINED by oralsex, caressing or loving touch. Yes, she certainly enjoys these things, but she does not get the same ecstatic high as when she gets stimulated deeply in the yoni for half an hour or more.
After this hormonal response and the emotional and energetic interchange have taken place, she will start to feel an almost euphoric high by your mere presence.
She will even feel it when you are not there. Just the thought of your lovemaking will be played again and again on the canvas of her inner mental screen. Many women just need to THINK of the sex and will re-experience the orgasmic euphoric states they had during the lovemaking washing over them.
So – if you want to get a woman hooked on you – you have to learn to make love like a super hero.
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What do women think when you come too quickly?
Perhaps you have tried this scenario – you have been crazy about a woman for months, and finally you get her out on a date, take her home and you are now naked in bed together.
But then you come in the moment you penetrate her …
And what happens now?
The thoughts begin to go in circles and you’re desperately thinking how you can save the situation.
Have you ever thought about what it is about premature ejaculation that makes you feel so bad about it?
What is she thinking?
Is it over between us?
Does she ever want to see me again?
Does she think I am completely ridiculous?
Will I get another chance with her?
But most of all you just feel really bad.
Bad as in REALLY bad with yourself.
But have you ever thought about what it is about premature ejaculation that makes you feel so bad about it?
In its essence its because there is a deep connection between how you manage your sexual energy and how you manage yourself in general in other aspects of your life.
As a man it is part of your natural sexual instinct to be the one that initiates and takes command of the lovemaking. You are the “physical” leader in bed.
A woman is the “emotional” leader. She brings the emotions, the love, the depth, the warmth and the intimacy in the lovemaking and in the couple relationship.
Tantra describes the energetic interchange between men and women during love making.
As men we channel the sexual energy with our lingham (penis) and we direct energy into the woman when we penetrate her.
The woman receives the sexual energy from the man in her yoni (vagina) and it gets mixed with her own feminine sexual energy. After this she rises this energy up to her chest and heart area and gives it back to the man through her breasts in a “sublimated” and more refined form.
But if you as the man cannot lead the energy, the woman cannot open up. The lovemaking will not be nurturing, deep and full of love unless the woman feels safe and confident that the man can do his half of the job.
When you as a man ejaculate too quickly, it shows that you are not able to control the sexual energy that is created between you. Thereby she will conclude that you are not able to direct and control other things in your relationship.
When you as a man ejaculate too quickly, it shows that you are not able to control the sexual energy that is created between you. Thereby she will conclude that you are not able to direct and control other areas in your relationship.
This could be things such as taking the right decisions, to put action behind your words or other things that require that you as a man has a certain control over your energies.
These reactions in the women are completely unconscious and she cannot help feeling this. Even if she cuddles up next to you and says that it’s okay, at a deeper level she has lost her confidence in you when you ejaculate too quickly. It shows you cannot handle her and her energy.
These things are not something that women purposefully to make the man sad or angry – its simply a natural part of the game between the masculine and the feminine.
Women are CONTINUOUSLY evaluating men whether they want to or not. They are feeling if the man is CENTERED. If he is contact with his emotions, with his inner masculine core – if he is following his nature.
If the man is doing this he rises in value in her eyes, and when he is not doing this her attraction to him falls. Whether your inner compass is right on target or completely off, is something any woman can feel INSTINCTUALLY and as it is an INSTINCT she is unable to switch it off. .
It is part of her instinct to be able to feel whether she has found herself a potential “protector” – or a man who is potentially a danger for both of them!
And just like you cannot avoid looking at beautiful women with shine and sex appeal, she cannot be attracted to a man who does not control his energy.
And she skillfully navigates around men who don’t have this control.
… And just like you cannot avoid looking at beautiful women with shine and sex appeal, she cannot be attracted to a man who does not control his energy …
As a man your sexual energy can be the source of your masculine power and strength – or it can be the very opposite – it can be something that pulls you down, sucks out your energy and drains you of your self confidence. The difference is whether you have learned to control it or not. The art of controlling your sexual energy is fortunately something that can be learned by any man, but it does require that you learn certain fundamental skills – but its WORTH IT.
When you control your sexual energy it spreads to other areas in your life. You will experience and increased inner strength and more self confidence. Also on the emotional level, men who learn to control their sexual energy find themselves more optimistic and in possession of more inner strength and willpower.
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I would like to speak about an aspect of women that is difficult for men to “grasp”.
Its easy to understand, but because its so un-intuitive, it might easily go over your head …
This aspect is understanding what it is that really TURNS WOMEN ON.
A womans energy is like the ocean, it roles onto the shore as waves and these waves can easily OVERWHELM you.
You always have to be “over” the surface of the water to AVOID DROWNING.
As a man you have to be able to contain her energy. When she feels that you can do this, that you can stand steadfast in the middle of her emotions and her sexual energy – then – and only then she can LET GO and really GET TURNED ON.
Thats why its so important that you build up a STRONG SEXUAL STAMINA so that you can stand strong no matter how wild and turned on she is.
When making love men go into their masculine essence and women go into their feminine essence. This is what creates attraction. If she does not feel your masculine essence she will not be turned on and if you do not feel her essence as feminine you will not get a hard on.
As a man you have to be able to contain her energy. When she feels that you can do this, that you can stand steadfast in the middle of her emotions and her sexual energy. Then – and only then, can she LET GO and really GET TURNED ON.
As she moves into her feminine pole or essence, she opens up more and more and controls herself less and less. If the man has a difficult time controling the sexual energy and keeping himself centered, the woman will feel his lack of control and will start to control herself so that the man does not get too excited.
But in this way she misses out on her part of the experience. She will be unable to fully open up and will quickly lose the interest for sex.
When you learn to contain a womans sexual energy you can learn to make love as long as you like. You are like a surfer that rides on the wave, always on top of the water without falling in.
Women love when you are on top of the energy. This gives you emotional surplus and inner strength. You can tease her, you can pull your energy back, you can control the energy. You can be a CHALLENGE for her. You control the energetical aspect like a sailor or a surfer uses the wind, the currents of the sea and the waves to take you and her to new places.
If you are tensed up like a board of wood, afraid to fall into the water, you will not be a good surfer. A surfer is soft and flexible and follows the flow of energy, but at the same time is on top of the energy and uses it wisely.
Women love it when you “tease” them a bit before starting to make love. You wait penetrating her even if she is begging for it, you arouse her and then pull back. Its like a dam that you create, and when you finally open up the dam the water crashes outwards.
By being a more masculine and centered lover, you will not only last longer in bed – you will also open your woman so that she reaches new orgasmic heights. When she feels a stronger attraction to you, there will be much more passion and spark in the lovemaking.
It already starts outside the bedroom, by you training to be more masculine and centered in your way of interacting with women.
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I know that women like foreplay, and I don’t mind giving it to my girlfriend. The problem is that I often lose my erection during foreplay – and it doesn’t always want to get hard again afterwards – so often I prefer to start with the lovemaking straight away and to skip the preliminaries.
Here is my answer:
It sounds like you yourself don’t get turned on much during foreplay and as a result you lose your erection.
When men don’t enjoy the foreplay it’s often because they cannot read the woman’s cues and don’t know what the next natural thing to do is.
Or because they don’t dare take control and leadership of the situation because they are afraid of how she will react.
It can feel pretty CONTRA-INTUITIVE – you have to be able feel where the woman is, and dare to take on the leading role. Here are a few pointers that will help you along the way:
1. This is how you read her cues
The most obvious cue she gives is the “mmmm” sound. She’s into it and enjoying what you’re doing.
But already here most men make a FATAL mistake. They assume that when she says a sound or shows that she is aroused and enjoying herself, that they can move on to the next step.
“Ah, now I can move on to the breasts”. And at the next “mmm” the guy thinks “now its finally the time to head down south”. But no! It doesn’t work like that!
Its important to understand that when she sighs and moans, that this is because you are doing something HERE and NOW that she likes. So then CONTINUE DOING IT!! And do it until you can feel that she has had enough – for example, perhaps she gives you more “sound cues”.
This is not “rocket science” but many men have gotten it all wrong from the start. So do yourself a favor and “unlearn” some of your habits once and for all.
Women don’t have certain buttons that you can turn and rotate in a certain order. There is no series of moves you can follow giving you the perfect result.
If you think you just need to find the right sequence of steps and then continue with this sequence from now til eternity – if you are looking for that final “recipe” to turn on your woman – then you might very well end up searching for a very long time.
Because you know what?
It doesn’t exist.
Women HATE when men continue doing the same thing again and again without changing it the slightest bit. Believe me.
What she likes today is NOT The same as what she will like tomorrow.
What she likes right now, is not the same as what she wants in one minute or in 10 seconds.
So you have to continuously listen and read her signals.
2. Be a challenge
Being able to listen and to feel her is not the same as you having to live up to the slightest wink of her eye, or to put aside all your needs to gratify hers.
This will turn her off – or she will not get turned on at all.
Yes, it sounds a bit like a paradox.
At the same time that you can feel the woman, where she is and what she needs, you need to be a challenge for her. You can do this by teasing her, keeping her in suspense and showing her that you are taking charge.
If you are the kind of man that “over caresses” her insisting on kissing her and cuddling her – she will enjoy it – but she might not get sexually excited.
And sexually aroused – thats what you want her to get, right?
This is why you BOTH have to be aware of her cues and feel her but also to CHALLENGE her. If you can do this then she will get REALLY TURNED ON.
Show her that you can take control and leadership. Tease her. Act as if you are about to penetrate, so she prepares to receive you – and then wait some …
You add extra zest and excitement that gets her more aroused, and she gets turned on by what is unpredictable – she wakes up. She becomes aware and she follows your moves. And she gets TURNED ON.
3. Be Present
Women need to completely trust a man to be able to get turned on.
If she does not trust you she cannot let go, and cannot rest in her feminine essence. When she trusts you she can allow you to tease her, to take leadership and control and she will enjoy it immensely.
But what is it that makes a woman trust you?
Its all about your presence.
Are you present when you are together with her?
Can you feel yourself, can you feel her, can you feel your body, her body?
Or are you sitting there fretting about how she feels and whats the next thing you have to do to get to the end goal?
All women can feel this instinctually.
Women are aroun 70 times more sensitive than men. They have a better intuition, more empathy – and they even have more nerve ends in the skin, which make them more receptive and open to touch.
If a women were to try being a man just a single day she would feel that she was walking around in a space suit.
So you can’t hide from a woman. She can feel you with her feminine radar.
And if you have the slightest bit of fear, then she won’t completely trust you.
Is that scary?
No, not really.
The thing that turns on a woman most of all is your presence, your centered calm inner being. Not whether you are touching her here or there. Not even the worlds most advanced technique can turn her on as much as your masculine presence.
If you are able to be present with her, completely without fear, then you can turn her on without even touching her!
This calls for courage
To stand steadfast and still in the raging ocean, you need to be a man, and you need to be connected to your masculine core.
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When you come too quickly you probably just feel like burying yourself in a deep black hole.
But if you are like most men, you probably take a shower, grab a glass of water, walk the dog – anything that gets you mind away from your failure.
But what is the worst aspect of this situation for the woman?
Its exactly this tendency of yours – to walk away, the fact that you’re closing down emotionally. That you “disappear” from her.
Everything was going so nicely, and now the whole ambience disappeared so suddenly …
When I speak with couples where the man suffers from premature ejaculation the woman and the men always tell me two completely different versions of the scenario.
The man feels that the relationship is going well, but that he has a little problem between the sheets – he cannot last long enough. The woman on the other hand feels that they have a little problem in bed, but a HUGE problem in the relationship because he doesn’t want to talk about the little problem in bed.
The fact that he is closing off and not wanting to talk about it represents in her mind a HUGE problem that worries her MUCH MORE than the premature ejaculation problem itself
It may be irritating for her that he comes too quickly, and she wishes that he would last longer. But the fact that he is closing off and not wanting to talk about the problem represents in her mind a HUGE problem that worries her MUCH MORE than the premature ejaculation problem itself.
This is counter-intuitive for the man.
But this is none the less the reality of the woman.
When you walk away from her and you refuse to talk about it, she might feel unloved, unappreciated, that the magic disappears and that you don’t like her, that she has done something wrong and that you couldn’t be bothered with her.
At the same time she is worried about you and would like to know how you feel and if everything is ok.
All of this can easily be avoided and you talk to her about your problem once and for all.
– Tell her how you normally feel after a premature ejaculation accident and how you most of all feel like being alone or how you feel like pulling back emotionally. Just understanding how you feel will make her feel much better.
– Make it crystal clear to her that your feelings for her are intact and that your need to be alone if you come too quickly has got nothing to do with her and that it is not her fault either.
− Tell her that she turns you on so much that you cannot control yourself, that she’s simply too beautiful and sexy.
– But most important of all: Tell her that you are working on the problem and then follow through and actually PUT IN THAT EXTRA MILE to solve the problem so that you can get good and satisfying sex together. Both for your and her sake.
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